Maryam Sanda: "If Your Husband Cheats On You, Cheat Back."

Cheat back...

I am going to dive right in. I don't think there is any need to be formal especially as I do not have the time for that.

News made rounds yesterday that Maryam Sanda who murdered her husband in cold blood for alleged infidelity has been sentenced to death. I don't know the real reason, but I believe it has something to do with infidelity.

While it is sad that she was sentenced to death and she killed her husband, I can only think of the little child who might grow up without parents because her parents made a bad decision to get married to each other.

I know most religions do not accept divorce, but I believe that if two people are clearly not ready to make a marriage work, they should be allowed walk away. Some people are not forgiving at all especially if you abuse them or you are unfaithful.

If two people in a relationship are having issues, leave them alone. Don't tell them to pray, pray, pray, fight the side chic or dude or be submissive especially when the issue is not even about being submissive.

The rate at which people are murdering their spouses is on the high side and two people would be alive if they decided to walk away and raise their kids like reasonable humans.

If you are unhappy in your relationship and you cannot take it anymore, the option is not to pray and still be there because you might get so upset that your anger would lead you to do something stupid. As always, people would stay stuff. They will tell you being divorced is a dent to your image and children will hate you. I believe it is more honourable to go than stay and think of how to kill your husband.

Nkechi Bianze reminded us that some women go as far as poisoning their husband little by little or even send people to kill him. They do this because they would rather be widows than divorcees.

Abeg o, if it is not working, instead of being miserable and finding a way to kill your spouse, walk away or if you are still interested in being married to that person, Nkechi said you can cheat back if it will make you happy.😁 Instead of cooking with your feaces or menstrual blood, this might be a better option.

Whatever works for you anyway, but in whatever decision you have, kindly erase murder.

What do you guys think about the verdict of the judge? Is it too extreme? What would you do if you find out your partner has been cheating on you? What would you tell a friend if he/she complains to you about a cheating spouse? What role do you think religion has to play?

I'll be in the comment section. Cheers!

Comments

  1. The eye for an eye system of justice is very uncomfortable and I do not support it in any way. That being said, Mariam should be allowed a fair hearing at the least.

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    1. I think so too and I believe something should be done about capital punishment regardless of the gender.

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  2. That child, in time to come would be suicide prone. It's a cycle and the society has a way of playing this event to the disadvantage of the child.

    A very pitiable time to live.

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    1. The child is my major concern. I feel so sorry for the child.

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  3. I totally agree. If it isn't working, walk!

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  4. Apparently, my comment earlier didn't publish. Infidelity is one thing I don't think I can deal with. I might forgive the person but might probably not forget which would in turn keep hurting my feelings whenever I remember that someone I had confessed love to and vice versa had gone ahead to sleep with another woman. Remind me again how to pray for something you can't put up with? Just so peace would reign? And you probably shrink through the process? I can't . I'd rather leave. I guess in Maryam Sanda's case she had endured the hurt for a long time and she couldn't take it anymore. I've been asking, what if they had a fight and she was defending herself and in the process stabs him? Well, in this part of the world, the law decides everything especially when it concerns a woman. I only pray the child grows to live above all these and survives. Well-done Gifty ❤️

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    1. Thanks for your detailed and thoughtful comment. I don't think it was self-defence. I heard he was sleeping when she killed him. I'm not sure still.

      Whatever happens, I am only scared of the child. I hope the child is well loved qnd taken care of.

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  5. I think we shouldn't think that the judgment was so because it's a woman that's involved. I learned that both are from influencial families and that she is even the second wife (i stand to be corrected). But if the latter is true, why could she have taken laws into her hands when the first wife didn't do such during her own time (because I'm sure both of them dated before he married her... That's if she's truly the second).
    In as much as the capital punishment doesn't look favorable (but that's actually the consequence), I'm of the opinion she's granted a fair hearing, having the little child under consideration.

    This also goes to those in a relationship (probably leading to marriage)...learn about your partner to the best of your knowledge and don't just jump to say "Yes" within the shortest period all because you want to feel belong. I believe that anyone that's a cheat cannot pretend for long. Give your relationship time to reveal each other's personalities and intentions, know the attitudes you can deal with and those you can't. If the ones you can't deal with are on the high, kindly review your options and be ready to accept the consequences of your choice.

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    1. I don't know what went down, but I'm still of the opinion that if it is not working, walking away makes more sense.

      Your insights as regards relationships are valid. Thanks for stopping by.

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